We’ve all had that moment when we feel trapped in a certain not-too-encouraging situation. We feel our energy is being zapped by the happenings around us, and all we just wanted to do was escape.

In such situations, I’ve heard people say phrases like “Just learn to live with it” “Stay positive” or “Build another wall around yourself”.

To be up against the wall means finding yourself in a challenging situation. Whether you come out of the situation or not depends on certain decisions and choices you made in such a critical moment. I do think it is imperative to know the limit your strength can hold, and if you feel you’re getting to that breaking point, speak out.

Author, Elizabeth Bray says when our back is against the wall, “we can’t be going back, we can only go forward” Forward connotes actions you need to take to come out of the situation. Check out these action points.

1. Speak up in such a way that you honestly find the help you need. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied, or caged into a situation that is affecting you mentally. Talking is therapeutic. You let off some burdens by talking. However make sure you talk to trusted friends, who won’t scorn or mock you based on what you revealed to them.

2.  Build a personal support system that got your back no matter what. If the challenge is finance-related and bills are piling up so much it scares you, seek help from family and friends who truly care about you. A good financial support system will help you navigate some hurdles.

3. Seek professional psychological help.
If you don’t have money to pay for a professional therapist, some religious institutions offer free professional therapy sessions through their certified members.

4. Find a place to relax, assess the situation, and take the necessary steps to ‘wiggle’ your way out of it. If you need to talk to that difficult person, or you simply need to apologize. Please do the needful. Life is too short to allow someone to prevent you from moving forward.

In any case, remember, you have been through some situations before and were able to come out. You got this one too!

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Story: Folashade Akinola.